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pops taer
07-22-2009, 03:25 PM
Embracing Imperfection

"When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then.
And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: 'Honey, I love burned toast.'

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, 'Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!' You know, life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best housekeeper or cook.

What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of GOD. In the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker!

Have a wonderfully imperfect day!


Gilshalos Sedai
07-22-2009, 04:38 PM
I love that story.

Crispin's Crispian
07-22-2009, 04:53 PM
Bet that Dad wouldn't be so forgiving about burnt grilled cheese.

07-22-2009, 05:37 PM
Bet that Dad wouldn't be so forgiving about burnt grilled cheese.
This makes me LOL

On a recent trip to N.O. me and MrsIvhon listened to a FANTASTIC book on tape Be Happy Without Being Perfect. It is directed at women, but there is a TON that men can get out of it too. Those of you with perfectionist tendencies might do well to give it a listen or a read. I can attest that it made an immediate impact in my life (and not many books have).

Even if you aren't a perfectionist, there is a nice chapter about the harm that Martha Stewart has caused modern women and another nice bit reminding us that women today frequently feel a need to be the domestic equals of their mothers and grandmothers while being the professional equals of their fathers and grandfathers. Which of course is impossible. Working women compare their domestic/parenting success to women who dont work and of course get depressed. On and on...great book. Im tired of writing (saving it up for the 40 pages of papers left to write in the next 2 weeks)