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Davian93
08-31-2010, 03:28 PM
An interesting, albeit not surprising, study on Facebook and people's habits.

Personally, its a "Well Duh!" article.


Link (http://www.cnn.com/2010/TECH/social.media/08/30/facebook.narcissism.mashable/index.html?hpt=Sbin)


Facebook feeds narcissism, survey says

In a rather small survey conducted by a young psychologist, Facebook was shown to have some interesting correlations with self-esteem and narcissism in young adults.

In a survey of 100 college students, young people with narcissistic personality traits were shown to exhibit Facebook activity that was distinctly more self-promotional.

These people had "About Me" sections that referred to their intelligence and photos that were more about displaying the user's physical attractiveness than about capturing memories with friends.

Narcissism is defined in the survey, by a researcher at York University in Toronto, Canada, as "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration and an exaggerated sense of self-importance."

For the average narcissist, Facebook "offers a gateway for hundreds of shallow relationships and emotionally detached communication." More importantly for this study, social networking in general allows the user a great deal of control over how he or she is presented to and perceived by peers and other users.

The study postulated that narcissists would show more overall Facebook activity than average users and that their activity would be more self-promotional, either descriptively or superficially.

The survey's results showed "significant positive correlations between narcissism and self-promotional content in the following areas: Main Photo, View Photos , Status Updates and Notes."

People who scored higher on the study's narcissism test also spent more time on Facebook and checked it more times each day than their less narcissistic counterparts.

Male narcissists were more self-promotional in their "About Me" descriptions, using this section as an opportunity to highlight their intelligence and wit.

Female users with narcissistic tendencies tended to use images in their self-promotion, uploading content that "include[d] revealing, flashy and adorned photos of their physical appearance."

The researcher notes that this study is intended to be a preliminary look at nonynous social networking, a fairly new field for academic scrutiny.

As we abandon the fake avatars and cryptic usernames of years past and begin associating our online identities with our real-world lives, our online activities begin to have more relevance to our true personality traits.

Leanne
08-31-2010, 03:49 PM
Surprise!

Crispin's Crispian
08-31-2010, 05:49 PM
For the average narcissist, Facebook "offers a gateway for hundreds of shallow relationships and emotionally detached communication." I'd argue that Facebook does exactly this for everyone, not just narcissists.

The Internet is for pron and for developing superficial acquaintences.

tworiverswoman
08-31-2010, 05:59 PM
I'd argue that Facebook does exactly this for everyone, not just narcissists.

The Internet is for pron and for developing superficial acquaintences.Theoryland being the obvious exception to the rule, I guess... :p

;);)

Alanna Alai
08-31-2010, 09:54 PM
The Internet is for pron and for developing superficial acquaintences.

Respectfully I'd disagree. I know plenty of people who have not-so-superficial relationships who met online and who, save for events occurring every couple of years, don't see each other. I also know people who have met their spouses online and have been happily married for years.

It is my opinion that the internet is a tool for connections. Facebook and similar sites focus their efforts on connecting people with people. As a tool, it all in how you use it.

To put it another way: How different is the stone chisel you can buy at your local hardware store from the chisel Michelangelo used to carve David?

nameless
08-31-2010, 10:07 PM
That just makes me wonder if there's a museum employee somewhere whose job it is to track down and verify the providence of famous brushes and chisels.

Worst. Exhibit. Ever.

Ivhon
08-31-2010, 11:00 PM
*sigh*

Waits for Narcissistic Personality Disorder to become the new pet diagnosis.

Oh well...better than Borderline.

nameless
08-31-2010, 11:11 PM
Well there are stages of natural development that are for all intents and purposes indistinguishable from narcissism, once at late toddlerhood and again during the teenage years. There aren't all that many toddlers on facebook yet but plenty of teenagers use it. Like the OP said, it would be more surprising if they didn't display signs of narcissism. It's only a disorder if they don't grow out of it eventually.

Ivhon
08-31-2010, 11:26 PM
Well there are stages of natural development that are for all intents and purposes indistinguishable from narcissism, once at late toddlerhood and again during the teenage years. There aren't all that many toddlers on facebook yet but plenty of teenagers use it. Like the OP said, it would be more surprising if they didn't display signs of narcissism. It's only a disorder if they don't grow out of it eventually.

The author said everything right - particularly the words "narcissistic traits." Everyone, literally, displays traits associated with personality disorders - even though relatively few people actually have them.

My worry is that the audience reading that piece - particularly teenage Facebook idiots (as differentiated from wise old middle-agers like myself) are going to read that and decide that anyone who has a glamor shot or 1000 friends on Facebook has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and then go around trashing that person - in the way that only teenagers can do - all over the place:

"Wow...yannow, Jane, like, totally has Narcissistic disorder. YEAH, rilly! I read, like, this article that, like, this scientist-guy wrote and he, like, totally said that if you, like, have a hot picture and, like, a ton of friends then you are, like, totally Narcissistic. And well...go look at Jane's Facebook. I totally knew she was, like, a total bitch. YEAH. She's totally a slut, too."

yks 6nnetu hing
09-01-2010, 03:05 AM
Respectfully I'd disagree. I know plenty of people who have not-so-superficial relationships who met online and who, save for events occurring every couple of years, don't see each other. I also know people who have met their spouses online and have been happily married for years.

It is my opinion that the internet is a tool for connections. Facebook and similar sites focus their efforts on connecting people with people. As a tool, it all in how you use it.

To put it another way: How different is the stone chisel you can buy at your local hardware store from the chisel Michelangelo used to carve David?

psst... they're being funny. There are 5 current and 3 or 4 ex-couples who met on this board... that I know off the top of my head. It's early in the morning, I might have skipped someone :o But it's not all about coupledom, we have been known to send each other Christmas cards, lend books across oceans and take in a fellow TL-er if in need. :D

Also, on topic, if you're posting a picture of yourself, it doesn't make sense to broadcast just any old picture for everyone on the planet to see. Everyone wants to hide their flaws and emphasise their merits, it's perfectly normal. But I suppose the study was looking for repeated instances - and while the results werent' all that shocking, we can now say that it is scientifically proven that Facebook enables (encourages? draws out?) narcissistic behaviour.

Terez
09-01-2010, 06:51 AM
psst... they're being funny. There are 5 current and 3 or 4 ex-couples who met on this board...
hmm...
Uno and Moonie
Bryan and Gil
you and Dai
Cary and Zan
...? (maybe I will be embarrassed when I am reminded)

I can only think of three 'ex-couples' though I gathered that they were more fling-type things.

yks 6nnetu hing
09-01-2010, 07:30 AM
hmm...
Uno and Moonie
Bryan and Gil
you and Dai
Cary and Zan
...? (maybe I will be embarrassed when I am reminded)

I can only think of three 'ex-couples' though I gathered that they were more fling-type things.

that 5th one I only know via gossip so I'm not 100% sure; plus, if they're not that open about it here, I'm not going to say :p

ex-whatever-they-were. personal relationships that might have been serious.

Ivhon
09-01-2010, 08:50 AM
psst... they're being funny. There are 5 current and 3 or 4 ex-couples who met on this board... that I know off the top of my head. It's early in the morning, I might have skipped someone :o But it's not all about coupledom, we have been known to send each other Christmas cards, lend books across oceans and take in a fellow TL-er if in need. :D

Also, on topic, if you're posting a picture of yourself, it doesn't make sense to broadcast just any old picture for everyone on the planet to see. Everyone wants to hide their flaws and emphasise their merits, it's perfectly normal. But I suppose the study was looking for repeated instances - and while the results werent' all that shocking, we can now say that it is scientifically proven that Facebook enables (encourages? draws out?) narcissistic behaviour.

The bolded part is kindof why I worry about things like this being misinterpreted. There is no proof of anything, as this was not (and could not be) a controlled study. It therefore cannot be interpreted to "prove" any kind of causality (i.e. Facebook causes narcissitic behavior). All that can be inferred from the study is that there is some degree of correlation between certain posting behaviors on Facebook and the presence of certain traits associated with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

To further illustrate the point, many of the traits associated with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are also shared with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is entirely likely that this study could be replicated to show a similar (perhaps slightly lower correlation) relationship to Borderline Personality Disorder. So....Facebook draws out Borderline people?

Even scarier, Antisocial Personality Disorder (aka psychopaths/serial killers) ALSO shares a set of traits with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders. Again the study could be replicated to show (again lower) a similar relationship to the behaviors and Antisocial Personality Disorders. So...Facebook draws out serial killers!

Now we are all worried about serial killers targetting us on Facebook. Which means we all have Paranoid Personality Disorder.

Mindfuck complete.

Ishara
09-01-2010, 09:03 AM
that 5th one I only know via gossip so I'm not 100% sure; plus, if they're not that open about it here, I'm not going to say :p

ex-whatever-they-were. personal relationships that might have been serious.

I don't know that #5 is a secret, it's just not the sum total of what they are. But given that I've had dinner with them recently...trust when i say that there's a number 5.

As for the ones that didn't last, I'd say at least 1 of them wasn't a fling at all - just didn't work out. Shrug.

yks 6nnetu hing
09-01-2010, 09:16 AM
I love you Ish! you always know the best stuff...

of the 4 that I was thinking of, 2 were serious, and 2 were flings. And that's only during the time I've been here... so there might have been more :p

Gilshalos Sedai
09-01-2010, 09:19 AM
Idiots will be idiots, Facebook or not. It just allows them to inflict their idiocy on others.


Theoryland isn't a social networking site. And the majority of us older members have gone out of our way to visit each other and help each other out.

Hell, we rent a room to Birgitte while she finishes college.


As for the couples.... I can safely say I know who each is and was and .... that's all I'm saying. ;)

But the married couples are Uno and Moonshadow, Bryan and me, Zan and Cary. Yks and Dai'shan might as well be married.

The current "oh-my-god-they're-so-adorable-give-me-an-airsick-bag" couple is .... nevermind.

yks 6nnetu hing
09-01-2010, 09:25 AM
Theoryland isn't a social networking site. And the majority of us older members have gone out of our way to visit each other and help each other out.

see, that's exactly what I meant. There's a reason why you're a writer. Much better with words! Although, gotta say, even though I've been hanging out here for over 6 years, I sometimes still don't consider myself as one of the "old guard"

Sei'taer
09-01-2010, 09:48 AM
My new favorite expression is one I have heard 3 or 4 times since saturday.

Moral Narcissisism. It was mostly used in reference to the Emmys by some gossip chick show person my wife watches. Then I heard it on CNN yesterday and I figured it was the new expression of the month.

Ivhon
09-01-2010, 09:50 AM
My new favorite expression is one I have heard 3 or 4 times since saturday.

Moral Narcissisism. It was mostly used in reference to the Emmys by some gossip chick show person my wife watches. Then I heard it on CNN yesterday and I figured it was the new expression of the month.


Ooh! Ooh! I wanna be trendy for once.....what's it mean?

Sei'taer
09-01-2010, 09:59 AM
Ooh! Ooh! I wanna be trendy for once.....what's it mean?

If I remember right, this chick was saying that driving to the awards show in a Prius, after flying from wherever you came from and then having an entourage fire up the house or renting a whole entire floor at a five star was moral narcissism.

I've been using it every chance I get. My wife if a horribly morally narcissistic. So is my 4 yr old son. So are people who have "coexist" stickers and "13.1" stickers and people who cut me off in traffic, and people who wear long sleeves in the summer, and people who jog in populated areas, and people who ride in huge pelotons on back roads and hold up traffic for miles.

All moral narcissists. It's so freeing to use.

Ivhon
09-01-2010, 10:05 AM
If I remember right, this chick was saying that driving to the awards show in a Prius, after flying from wherever you came from and then having an entourage fire up the house or renting a whole entire floor at a five star was moral narcissism.

I've been using it every chance I get. My wife if a horribly morally narcissistic. So is my 4 yr old son. So are people who have "coexist" stickers and "13.1" stickers and people who cut me off in traffic, and people who wear long sleeves in the summer, and people who jog in populated areas, and people who ride in huge pelotons on back roads and hold up traffic for miles.

All moral narcissists. It's so freeing to use.

OOooh...and the people that were selling "Never Forget" bumper stickers for $20 on 9/12. And the preachers railing against perversion and sodomy right after they get blown by a male hooker in the bathroom. And the traders who have lower salaries than their admins but have guaranteed multimillion dollar bonuses.


Wow...you're right! I love this thing!

Sei'taer
09-01-2010, 10:34 AM
told you!! It's lots of fun!

yks 6nnetu hing
09-01-2010, 10:35 AM
If I remember right, this chick was saying that driving to the awards show in a Prius, after flying from wherever you came from and then having an entourage fire up the house or renting a whole entire floor at a five star was moral narcissism.

I thought that was just hypocricy?

Davian93
09-01-2010, 10:56 AM
Cool story on 5 star hotels: My fiance and I were down in Virginia on a business trip for my work a couple weeks ago (I vaguely mentioned this in another thread) and for the final day of our trip down there, I got us a Jr. Suite at the Ritz Carlton in Tyson's Corner, VA outside DC. Its by Tyson's Corner Mall (one of the best malls in the country actually) and we dont have that type of shopping in VT so it was supposed to be a nice romantic treat that coincided with our 6 year anniversary. Well, I requested early check-in at 2 pm (instead of 3 pm) so we could change into non-traveling clothes and enjoy the day at the mall (both the Galleria and the regular one...as there are two halves there). We didnt get to the hotel until around 4 pm and then we waited in line to check-in for about 30 min as the guy in front of us argued very loudly and rudely with the check-in clerk. He had a Suite for him and his family for the next night and didnt understand why he couldnt check in a day early...they offered him 2 regular rooms at the same cost...1 for his teenage daughter and one for him and his wife with a connecting door but that wasn't good enough...the wife was a real beyotch too. As we were waiting, a hotel worker came up to us and asked for our name so she could start our check-in while we were waiting. We figured she was just another clerk at this time and we small-talked with her for 5 min about Vermont and our anniversary and the hotel..totally friendly and nice. When we finally got up to the check-in counter, our room was not ready for some reason (they didn't say why) and they gave us a couple options...we could go have a drink in the hotel bar on them, they could give us a regular (non Jr Suite) room to go change/shower before going back out and they would just move our stuff to our actual room when it was ready (we had mentioned our time crunch but were totally polite/friendly about it...not an A-hole like the guy in front of us). After about 2 min of trying to decide, the woman who had originally taken our info came out from the Office behind the counter and told the clerk "Just put them in this room as its only one night". We had no idea what room it was but then she clarified "We're gonna put you in our Presidental "Ritz Carlton" Suite for the night to make up for the inconvenience. You'll have free access to our Executive Lounge, 24 hr complimentary room service (normal service stops at 11 pm), a free car service to take you anywhere you want and your own bellman (totally cool by the way as he turned down the beds, was on-call for whatever we needed, etc etc. The "suite" was about the same sq footage as our house and it was like ridiculously nice. It had those cool Japanese toilets that talk, have heated seats, and do all sorts of stuff like clean your bottom side and then air dry it. We took full advantage of the room service and the Lounge (5 meals served a day in the lounge plus free drinks (whatever we wanted from bar either self serve or from the bartender).

It was totally awesome and it didnt cost anything more than the normal room charge. Looking it up, the room rents for something like $3K a night...and we paid $189.00 plus tax.

It was seriously the coolest experience ever. And the jerk in front of us probably would have been given the room if he wasnt so much of an a-hole.

Crispin's Crispian
09-01-2010, 11:35 AM
Respectfully I'd disagree. I know plenty of people who have not-so-superficial relationships who met online and who, save for events occurring every couple of years, don't see each other. I also know people who have met their spouses online and have been happily married for years.

It is my opinion that the internet is a tool for connections. Facebook and similar sites focus their efforts on connecting people with people. As a tool, it all in how you use it.

To put it another way: How different is the stone chisel you can buy at your local hardware store from the chisel Michelangelo used to carve David?YKS covered it nicely, but of course I was exaggerating. I'm personally married to four people from Theoryland, and all my exes live on Facebook.

GonzoTheGreat
09-01-2010, 11:41 AM
To put it another way: How different is the stone chisel you can buy at your local hardware store from the chisel Michelangelo used to carve David?I would suspect that modern chisels are much better quality than what Michelangelo used.
In the same way Facebook gives you a far better view of what your future ex has been up to than the old fashioned way of relying on rumors ever could.

Davian93
09-01-2010, 11:46 AM
I would suspect that modern chisels are much better quality than what Michelangelo used.
In the same way Facebook gives you a far better view of what your future ex has been up to than the old fashioned way of relying on rumors ever could.

Modern forging techniques DO allow for much higher quality steel.

Gilshalos Sedai
09-02-2010, 09:01 AM
I thought that was just hypocricy?

Me, too.

And you're old guard, Yks. You're a Siren now, remember?

yks 6nnetu hing
09-02-2010, 10:13 AM
And you're old guard, Yks. You're a Siren now, remember?

*does a little happy dance* 'cause, see, rank here has more to do with tenure and (I'd like to think) awesomeness than boobs... or other... attributes.

Speaking of attributes, I cut my hair off. Feels awesome.

DahLliA
09-02-2010, 10:54 AM
they had to do a survey to find this out?

Sei'taer
09-02-2010, 11:06 AM
Boobs!!!

GonzoTheGreat
09-02-2010, 11:47 AM
Speaking of attributes, I cut my hair off.I blame Isa.

Ishara
09-03-2010, 09:06 AM
*does a little happy dance* 'cause, see, rank here has more to do with tenure and (I'd like to think) awesomeness than boobs... or other... attributes.

Speaking of attributes, I cut my hair off. Feels awesome.

Pictures, pictures!

yks 6nnetu hing
09-03-2010, 09:33 AM
linky (http://picasaweb.google.com/111388678048359610837/August2010#5512679237150012914)

not very happy with that pic but... meh.

Did you notice how we're right back at the beginning of the thread?

Oatman
09-03-2010, 09:51 AM
*does a little happy dance* 'cause, see, rank here has more to do with tenure and (I'd like to think) awesomeness than boobs... or other... attributes.

Everything is about boobs.

Ishara
09-04-2010, 11:15 PM
linky (http://picasaweb.google.com/111388678048359610837/August2010#5512679237150012914)

not very happy with that pic but... meh.

Did you notice how we're right back at the beginning of the thread?

Holy moly! That's SUPER short for you! It looks fabulous! Do you love it? Cause I love it!!

Also, ARE you on fb?

DahLliA
09-05-2010, 06:49 PM
Boobs!!!

/drool

fdsaf3
09-06-2010, 09:16 PM
My two cents about the relationships here on Theoryland as a relative newbie is that the whole "there have been X relationships but I won't say who or when!" smacks of there being an in-group here which is difficult to crack. My experience here has been pretty neutral so far, partly because I have taken little initiative to make personal connections with members and partly because there is a strong sense of insider/outsider. I'm not complaining or anything, just pointing out that with respect to the references to "old guard", new members such as myself could have a pretty different view of how this community functions.

I also just want to say before someone gets frustrated with me that I understand the nature of privacy and am not saying all information about people's romantic lives should be gossiped about here for all to see.

On topic regarding Facebook and narcissism, I'd really like to have this study (or a similar one) performed on Myspace users from about 4-5 years ago. To me, Facebook seems much more personal than Myspace ever did. Myspace seemed to be focused on pimping yourself out to random strangers whereas Facebook social networks are still mostly composed of people you know in real life.

Davian93
09-06-2010, 09:22 PM
My two cents about the relationships here on Theoryland as a relative newbie is that the whole "there have been X relationships but I won't say who or when!" smacks of there being an in-group here which is difficult to crack. My experience here has been pretty neutral so far, partly because I have taken little initiative to make personal connections with members and partly because there is a strong sense of insider/outsider. I'm not complaining or anything, just pointing out that with respect to the references to "old guard", new members such as myself could have a pretty different view of how this community functions.



LOL...if it helps, I've been here 7 years and I have no idea what they're referring to. I assume its to a couple that doesn't want to share with the greater group and that's entirely their right not to break a confidence like that. So you're no different than other long-term posters by being in the dark.

I'm gonna just assume that its Firseal and Birgitte that are now a couple...until proven otherwise.

Ivhon
09-06-2010, 09:30 PM
LOL...if it helps, I've been here 7 years and I have no idea what they're referring to. I assume its to a couple that doesn't want to share with the greater group and that's entirely their right not to break a confidence like that. So you're no different than other long-term posters by being in the dark.

I'm gonna just assume that its Firseal and Birgitte that are now a couple...until proven otherwise.

I'm old guard to almost 10 years and I don't know who it is.

And for the record, Keys, I think of you as a regular - I'm even coming up with a psych profile for you concerning what it means to be fdsaf3 instead of asdfa3.

EDIT: Also for the record, I have only met 3 people here face to face. Doesn't stop me from giving the rest of them shit on a near daily basis.

Uno
09-06-2010, 09:47 PM
I've got a facebook account. Right now I don't really do anything with it, but I have toyed with the idea of crafting a fake persona through Facebook and other websites. A sort of better me, if you understand. A me that (modestly enough) posts udates about the chartiable activities he participates in, rescues cats from trees, and is generally nice. This chap would then show up on the first page of search engines results.

And, yes, I suppose it can be tough for newbies to feel like insiders, but I've never kept up with the local gossip either.

Sei'taer
09-06-2010, 09:49 PM
I'm old guard to almost 10 years and I don't know who it is.

And for the record, Keys, I think of you as a regular - I'm even coming up with a psych profile for you concerning what it means to be fdsaf3 instead of asdfa3.

EDIT: Also for the record, I have only met 3 people here face to face. Doesn't stop me from giving the rest of them shit on a near daily basis.


Wow...I've been here 10 years and I don't know what any of that means.

Ivhon
09-06-2010, 09:53 PM
I've got a facebook account. Right now I don't really do anything with it, but I have toyed with the idea of crafting a fake persona through Facebook and other websites. A sort of better me, if you understand. A me that (modestly enough) posts udates about the chartiable activities he participates in, rescues cats from trees, and is generally nice. This chap would then show up on the first page of search engines results.

And, yes, I suppose it can be tough for newbies to feel like insiders, but I've never kept up with the local gossip either.

I think it boils down to chicks gossiping....


*hides*

Uno
09-06-2010, 09:56 PM
I think it boils down to chicks gossiping....


*hides*

The Women's Circle, basically, but, on the other hand, most things that happen pass me by these days. For instance, there appears to be some kind of treasure hunt going on that has caused an unprecedented mass influx of new registrations, but exactly what it is I'm not sure. Seems to be causing quite a stir, though.

Terez
09-06-2010, 10:48 PM
So Birgitte and Sini finally hooked up huh? We all knew it would happen eventually...

Terez
09-06-2010, 11:16 PM
LOL, that was a joke obviously...but I just put 2 and 2 together. Or rather, something that was common knowledge to me and something weird SBX said a week or two ago. If they want to keep it secret, whatever, but congrats to both of you. ;)

Uno
09-06-2010, 11:45 PM
On the callous side, I feel, making jokes like that. Consider those board members that would be in-laws of Sinistrum.

Terez
09-07-2010, 01:09 AM
I can't think of anyone more deserving in the one case, or more capable of handling him in the other. But fortunately, it seems they have been spared that much.

Ishara
09-08-2010, 01:12 PM
Um, people. Definitely NOT B and Sini. Definitely not. LOL

fdsaf3, sorry I made you feel like an outsider! I felt the same way too, at one point. To make you feel more welcome, do we have a nick for you? Cause I had to c&p your name, and that's just not cool!

Crispin's Crispian
09-08-2010, 01:36 PM
Um, people. Definitely NOT B and Sini. Definitely not. LOL

fdsaf3, sorry I made you feel like an outsider! I felt the same way too, at one point. To make you feel more welcome, do we have a nick for you? Cause I had to c&p your name, and that's just not cool!

I've suspected Sini and Gonzo had a secret relationship for years. This all but confirms it.

Ivhon
09-08-2010, 03:20 PM
Um, people. Definitely NOT B and Sini. Definitely not. LOL

fdsaf3, sorry I made you feel like an outsider! I felt the same way too, at one point. To make you feel more welcome, do we have a nick for you? Cause I had to c&p your name, and that's just not cool!

I gave him one. "Keys"

fdsaasdffdsaasdfdsasdffdsaasdfdsaasdfdsaasdffdsa

Scarily disturbing in a "Shining" kinda way.

Speaking of disturbing.... TEREZ! Bring back happy-spider!

Sinistrum
09-08-2010, 03:49 PM
So Birgitte and Sini finally hooked up huh? We all knew it would happen eventually...

Heh. Nope. But thanks for playing.

Back to the moral narsicism thing, I can think of no greater illustration of it than the South Park episode involving the hybrids and the smug cloud.

Terez
09-08-2010, 04:35 PM
Speaking of disturbing.... TEREZ! Bring back happy-spider!
I will eventually. But that is Undead Asmodean. Brandon drew him:

http://i70.photobucket.com/albums/i111/Terez27/triviachamp.jpg

Cons feed narcissism. Who knew?

yks 6nnetu hing
09-13-2010, 04:59 AM
Holy moly! That's SUPER short for you! It looks fabulous! Do you love it? Cause I love it!!

Also, ARE you on fb? I like it a lot, yes :D and no, I'm not on fb. Or rather, I once had to make a profile to see a friend's pics but after that haven't visited once. I think I even forgot the password... pretty sure I didn't use a variationof my "usual" one either.

My two cents about the relationships here on Theoryland as a relative newbie is that the whole "there have been X relationships but I won't say who or when!" smacks of there being an in-group here which is difficult to crack. My experience here has been pretty neutral so far, partly because I have taken little initiative to make personal connections with members and partly because there is a strong sense of insider/outsider. I'm not complaining or anything, just pointing out that with respect to the references to "old guard", new members such as myself could have a pretty different view of how this community functions.

I also just want to say before someone gets frustrated with me that I understand the nature of privacy and am not saying all information about people's romantic lives should be gossiped about here for all to see.

well... some of them you just can't help but notice if you're on the non-wot at all - there was an actual proposal on the non board a while ago... very hard to miss. Others are a bit more low-key, and some you really might not know unless you want to read through the last decade's worth of archives or happen to meet people in person.

Dragon Thief
09-14-2010, 07:37 PM
Pictures, pictures!

Are we asking for pics of hair or boobs here? And if it's boobs, there better not be hair hiding them!

Dragon Thief
09-14-2010, 07:40 PM
LOL...if it helps, I've been here 7 years and I have no idea what they're referring to. I assume its to a couple that doesn't want to share with the greater group and that's entirely their right not to break a confidence like that. So you're no different than other long-term posters by being in the dark.

I'm gonna just assume that its Firseal and Birgitte that are now a couple...until proven otherwise.

Dav, you don't know because you don't keep up on FB. Slacker.

Dragon Thief
09-14-2010, 07:44 PM
Um, people. Definitely NOT B and Sini. Definitely not. LOL

fdsaf3, sorry I made you feel like an outsider! I felt the same way too, at one point. To make you feel more welcome, do we have a nick for you? Cause I had to c&p your name, and that's just not cool!

I've been reading it sorta phonetically as Fud-Saf-Three, if that's any help.