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Brita
09-03-2010, 03:51 PM
OK- in the New Year I posted about my hopes to go part time. I waffled between accepting a part time job that was offered to me or staying on the promises of part time work in my current field.

I passed on the part time job, deciding to wait it out.

Now, I have been offered two great positions.

One is the job my boss had promised me months ago. The posting closes today. I guess I haven't had the official job offer yet, but between her and I she has told me she has every intention of giving it to me. This will be an administrative position.

The other is in the Cancer Centre as a float nurse. I have been officially offered this job. I have to let them know by Wednesday.

Now, Job # 1 is a career moving job, full of challenge and accomplishment. It is flexible in hours. BUT it is non-union, pays less and there will be very high expectations. There is no patient contact (purely administrative).The whole program is in it's beginning stages, is hard funded and is not entirely stable in it's future.

Job # 2 is a secure, union position. I will make more money for significantly less stress. I will get back to the roots of nursing for a while, which I sorely miss. I will keep my seniority and all the advantage that gives me. BUT I will probably be bored, it has no flexibility in hours and is 10 steps back in my career (to be honest, it hurts my pride a bit).

This is what I am thinking: I can launch a more agressive career at any time. I have a great resume and no burned bridges. Right now, I want to focus on my family and on myself. I can pour my creative and organizational talents into my own interests, like writing a book or applying for grants for my own patient based programs. I am leaning towards Job # 2. Which, btw, is the one I've actually been offered. There is a very slight chance I could turn down Job #2, and find out some amazing talent applied for the other one that my boss just couldn't turn down.

Anyway, I have hashed this over and over in my mind, and as usual TL is functioning again as my own personal diary. Any thoughts are more than welcome. I love a diary that will talk back :)

Sei'taer
09-03-2010, 05:00 PM
OK- in the New Year I posted about my hopes to go part time. I waffled between accepting a part time job that was offered to me or staying on the promises of part time work in my current field.

I passed on the part time job, deciding to wait it out.

Now, I have been offered two great positions.

One is the job my boss had promised me months ago. The posting closes today. I guess I haven't had the official job offer yet, but between her and I she has told me she has every intention of giving it to me. This will be an administrative position.

The other is in the Cancer Centre as a float nurse. I have been officially offered this job. I have to let them know by Wednesday.

Now, Job # 1 is a career moving job, full of challenge and accomplishment. It is flexible in hours. BUT it is non-union, pays less and there will be very high expectations. There is no patient contact (purely administrative).The whole program is in it's beginning stages, is hard funded and is not entirely stable in it's future.

Job # 2 is a secure, union position. I will make more money for significantly less stress. I will get back to the roots of nursing for a while, which I sorely miss. I will keep my seniority and all the advantage that gives me. BUT I will probably be bored, it has no flexibility in hours and is 10 steps back in my career (to be honest, it hurts my pride a bit).

This is what I am thinking: I can launch a more agressive career at any time. I have a great resume and no burned bridges. Right now, I want to focus on my family and on myself. I can pour my creative and organizational talents into my own interests, like writing a book or applying for grants for my own patient based programs. I am leaning towards Job # 2. Which, btw, is the one I've actually been offered. There is a very slight chance I could turn down Job #2, and find out some amazing talent applied for the other one that my boss just couldn't turn down.

Anyway, I have hashed this over and over in my mind, and as usual TL is functioning again as my own personal diary. Any thoughts are more than welcome. I love a diary that will talk back :)



You want an opinion, I got lots.

I would take the job that makes you more comfortable. I had several reasons for doing what I now do.

1) I was sick and tired of the work. It was getting fishy and I wasn't about to take the blame for a lot of the things that were happening no matter how good the money was.

2) My old employer wasn't stable. I had to go to the liquor store and cash my checks because I had so many bounce after they had gone into my checking account. I needed a job that was consistent and stable. I can take a lot of stress, but I can't take the stress of wondering if my job will be there tomorrow or if the money will run out and the doors will close and that'll be it. Not a fun way to live.

3) I wanted out of the union. I figure unions are probably different up there than they are down here. I hate unions. I hate unions. I hate unions I'm a huge proponent of not having them around. My union took more from me than I ever got from them. They were slick bastards who spoke a big game and then didn't deliver to us (they did get their piece though). They lied to us. Our dues were awful and the harassment from the "dignitaries" (thug bastards with big muscles and bad attitudes) was more than I could take. I made a lot of enemies when I left, with my old employer, who canned me when I gave my notice, and from the union who wanted me to continue to pay dues for the rest of the year even though I wasn't working for them (they still have a claim saying that I owe them contractually agreed upon dues. If you're fired, the dues are supposed to be null and void. I was fired and they didn't like it. Instead of going after my boss, who was and is a very powerful man, they go after me. Fuck a bunch of union. I've said that to their face and been in their face too many times to be concerned with them anymore. Did I mention I hate unions?) Anyway, don't let something like that shade your decision. You can live without a union if that's the way you choose to go.

4) Go with what makes you happy. I make significantly less money now than I did. Around 40 grand a year less. I'm happy. I don't have nearly the stress problems I had. I go to work everyday and sometimes I even look forward to it.

5) Before you make the decision, weigh the stresses of both jobs. Are you going to come home happy or stressed and worried? Will the kids/husband/family avoid you because you suck to be around after being at work? That's the kind of thing you need to look at and ask your family about.

I know that doesn't help much, but there's something in there somewhere.

When are we gonna play Words with Friends?

nameless
09-03-2010, 05:05 PM
Tell your boss that career options are time-sensitive and you'll need some kind of offer in writing for job #1. If you don't get that by Wednesday then for all practical purposes job #1 isn't a real job.

Basel Gill
09-03-2010, 06:30 PM
What ST and nameless said.

I also had an offer for a job which would have been a step forward, but the market for geriatric psych units is growing like a bitch and there is all sorts of open/close/buyout stuff going on. I could have made $5000 more a year and had better insurance, but the flexibility, stability, and seniority in my current job kept me. I work for a good organization and folks that will be flexible with you when you need it is priceless, but that is what I needed. You go with what you need! Good luck!

Brita
09-03-2010, 08:04 PM
Thanks for the advice guys. It's all good.

When are we gonna play Words with Friends?

When are we gonna do what with the what now?

Sei'taer
09-03-2010, 08:15 PM
When are we gonna do what with the what now?


On my new iphone. It's an app called words with friends. Seitaer is my name, scrabble is my game.

this goes for anyone else. If you want to get your ass kicked, play Brita. If you want to win a few, play me.

Brita
09-03-2010, 08:59 PM
On my new iphone. It's an app called words with friends. Seitaer is my name, scrabble is my game.

this goes for anyone else. If you want to get your ass kicked, play Brita. If you want to win a few, play me.

Well alrighty then. I'm getting my i-pod right now.

Anaiya Sedai
09-04-2010, 07:59 AM
Brita, I wholeheartedly echo what ST said. By the sounds of it, #2 looks to be the better option. Too many people spend too much time in horrible jobs that make their lives miserable. Do you want to be one of them?

Davian93
09-04-2010, 11:48 AM
I'd go with Job #2. Family and actually LIVING are more important than one's career.

Job #2 for me was a Fed position...the one I'm in now basically even after taking it, doing well and getting another higher position. Regardless of all that, I have little stress, I focus on living, I dont stress about taking time off and being with my family (I've taken 9 weeks off for vacation in the last 12 months now, I take every other Friday off as I work 9 hours days the rest of the time and every federal holiday off). It feels like I'm hardly there sometimes.

Take Job 2, you'll be far happier and life isn't about "having the bestest career ever!!!" Seriously TAKE JOB #2!!!


And good luck! :)


Oh, and though I agree with what Taer said concerning unions, some unions (more white collar ones) aren't really that bad. My federal union (of which I'm not a member) would still help me...Unions, like anyhting else, suck when they have too much power.

Zaela Sedai
09-04-2010, 12:11 PM
To be honest I think "Pays more and less stress" is hands down the best option for your family and yourself, simple as that.


We just had a bunch of major decisions in our family too. My husband had worked for a major pest control company and had a lot of oppurtunity to move up through it, as well as a fabulous paycheck. (even entry level bug killers make a good amount of cash LOL). But the flipside was he worked about 80 hours per week in a branch that they needed to turn around and it was an hour from home without traffic.

Not a good job for family at all. Recently he left there to start on his own, its a risk, sure, a friend had actually started it first a couple years ago and while it grew a bit in the three months he's actually been working there its growing immensly. i.e. August last year was $1,500 and August this year was $8,000. It's good numbers in "these times" no pulling a paycheck for a while, but it's worth the risk and great for us family wise. Pray that it flourishes :)

On my side - I was recently asked to apply for a promotion at work, and to be honest I was shocked considering I am about to leave for 4 months lol. But yay! I was just offered the posistion a week ago, with a good raise and FT work from home. Now mama brings home the bacon.

Anywho - baby needs to come out as I'm getting tired of being preggers.


GOOD LUCK BRITA!

Davian93
09-04-2010, 05:54 PM
Dav's mental image of Zae's husband now...

http://www.inthenews.co.uk/photo/john-goodman-gets-to-grips-with-spiders-in-the-film-arachnophobia-$7032447$300.jpg

Ishara
09-04-2010, 11:29 PM
LOL@Dav

Brita - I'd go with #2 for a couple of reasons:

1. You are one of the most intuitive people I know, and if your gut is telling you to go for #2, it's probably the way to go;

2. In the coming year and a bit, that union job (with ONA) may be safer than you had ever thought it could be. Public sector non-union jobs (like mine) are about to take a HUGE financial hit over the next 3 years, at minimum) to address the provincial budgetary issues. You're more likely to maintain what you've been offered at #2, than you would at #1;

3. #2 is a sure thing, and#1 is not - in my world, that means a LOT;

4. Going back to your roots is never a bad thing, and knowing you, you'll thrive on being in contact with patients again - it will re-energize your love for your work, while allowing you to spend the time with your family that you crave. Also, just think of the mentoring opportunities this kind of role will give you - yes, perhaps a few steps backwards, but the learning and experience you have to offer new nurse is incalculable.

Good luck!!

Brita
09-05-2010, 12:21 PM
Zae- congrats on your promotion! How much time do you take off for maternity leave?

Dav- ya- the union has been nothing but a headache for me, but now that I may be leaving their somewhat abusive embrace, I am a little reluctant. Especially in these times. To be able to keep my pension going and seniority intact....ya, that kind of security is hard to leave, even if they slap me around from time to time.

Ishara- girl, you're the best! Next time I come to Toronto, let's get together. It will be October 8th. Are you around then and not too busy with house and wedding plans?

Ishara
09-05-2010, 12:41 PM
Brita, I'm off that day, but will happily come in for a few hours to see you! Let's makes some plans!

Zaela Sedai
09-05-2010, 02:28 PM
I'm off for 4 months, thanks to CT state law... but only 6-8 weeks paid :( Oh well its worth it :) I start the new job when I get back. I should be going out within the next two weeks... getting kinda hard to work when i can't sit for long periods of time.

LOL @ Dav - Just shave off a 100 lbs lol

Brita
09-08-2010, 04:30 PM
Tell your boss that career options are time-sensitive and you'll need some kind of offer in writing for job #1. If you don't get that by Wednesday then for all practical purposes job #1 isn't a real job.

Along with all of the rest, I took this advice in particular. My boss said I would be short-listed for job # 1, and she is "Pretty confident who she will offer the job to" (in those exact words). That wasn't enough for me. A bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush, as they say. So I have accepted job # 2. I will be telling my boss tomorrow, in person.

Part time, here I come!!!!

Ivhon
09-08-2010, 04:46 PM
Along with all of the rest, I took this advice in particular. My boss said I would be short-listed for job # 1, and she is "Pretty confident who she will offer the job to" (in those exact words). That wasn't enough for me. A bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush, as they say. So I have accepted job # 2. I will be telling my boss tomorrow, in person.

Part time, here I come!!!!

Yay Brita!

Sei'taer
09-08-2010, 04:48 PM
Along with all of the rest, I took this advice in particular. My boss said I would be short-listed for job # 1, and she is "Pretty confident who she will offer the job to" (in those exact words). That wasn't enough for me. A bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush, as they say. So I have accepted job # 2. I will be telling my boss tomorrow, in person.

Part time, here I come!!!!

Way to go! Enjoy it!

Crispin's Crispian
09-08-2010, 04:55 PM
Awesome! Four more hours a day to spend at Theoryland!

Zaela Sedai
09-08-2010, 05:38 PM
Wait... it was Part Time AND Paid more... where was the hard desicion lol....:P

Brita
09-08-2010, 06:11 PM
Wait... it was Part Time AND Paid more... where was the hard desicion lol....:P

Lol! Flexible hours and loyalty, mostly. In fact, if she had offered me the job, I probably would have accepted. But it was not to be. I have waited long enough. Time to move on.

Davian93
09-08-2010, 06:43 PM
Along with all of the rest, I took this advice in particular. My boss said I would be short-listed for job # 1, and she is "Pretty confident who she will offer the job to" (in those exact words). That wasn't enough for me. A bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush, as they say. So I have accepted job # 2. I will be telling my boss tomorrow, in person.

Part time, here I come!!!!

Repped

Well, I would if I was able to do so...must spread it around first.

Ishara
09-08-2010, 09:16 PM
Yay!!!

yks 6nnetu hing
09-13-2010, 06:04 AM
Lol! Flexible hours and loyalty, mostly. In fact, if she had offered me the job, I probably would have accepted. But it was not to be. I have waited long enough. Time to move on.

lol, repped :) Loyalty counts for alot but in the end you need to look out for you. And that's that.

I leave for a week and so much happens! Congrats!

Brita
09-13-2010, 02:52 PM
I just had my last Initiation Visit (start up of a new study at our centre). At the end of the meeting, the lead physician pulled me aside and said "Don't stay away from this area for too long, you are very knowledgable".

~~sigh~~ Gives me a slight twinge of regret, it does. Just a slight one. It is hard to leave the area I have built up so much expertise in.

On the other hand, all the nurses I will be joining on the front lines have been dispensing hugs and hearty wlecomes, so that makes me feel better.

Davian93
09-13-2010, 02:53 PM
I just had my last Initiation Visit (start up of a new study at our centre). At the end of the meeting, the lead physician pulled me aside and said "Don't stay away from this area for too long, you are very knowledgable".

~~sigh~~ Gives me a slight twinge of regret, it does. Just a slight one. It is hard to leave the area I have built up so much expertise in.

On the other hand, all the nurses I will be joining on the front lines have been dispensing hugs and hearty wlecomes, so that makes me feel better.

Trust me, you made the right decision.

Brita
09-13-2010, 04:21 PM
Trust me, you made the right decision.

Thanks :)

Ishara
09-13-2010, 04:54 PM
Oh, I agree! Just think of all the valuable information you can share just by being you! Am so excited for you and this change in your life!!

Brita
09-14-2010, 10:00 AM
Thanks darling!